Apparently, in my last blurb, I misinterpreted Ryan, and so I'd like to apologize. I thought "You did well" meant that I did well. Though, I do still feel embarrassed about the door thing, I see that it was well enjoyed by at least one member of the listening audience. Nevermind that he'd being trying to distract me from the interview the entire time.

It's impossible to know what someone else is actually feeling, but I think it's human nature to try to identify and interpret those things. Maybe it makes us feel closer to the other person. All that I really know, though, is that it has led to some of the worst issues I've ever had with other people.

Take, for instance, a conversation I recently had with a man I will call Mr. B. He met me at one of my book signings and then spent several weeks trying to get me to go out with him. A very interesting person to talk to, he piqued my interest on several levels. I finally agreed to the date.

We discussed where and when we were going to meet, but things were still not solid when his son interrupted our conversation and he said that he'd return to finish it. He never did. So, I waited. And waited. And the next day I cancelled the date because I still wasn't sure if the plans were firm.

He had thought everything was settled.  He had assumed that I knew what we were doing, and was on his way to the restaurant when he got my message. I was at home, feeling grumpy and stood up. And both of us were dissatisfied because we'd interpreted what someone else had said rather than just asking the other.